Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Of Blood Test and the TTC Community


This is my RE. She's awesome. She appeared on the telly on Monday to talk about infertility and what couples can do to have babies of their own. At the end of the segment when she was asked what advice would she give to hopeful couples, one of the things she said was "don't give up". I like that. I know that that that's what we have to do, to not give up. But it's comforting to hear her say it.

On Monday I got a text from her asking me to come into the clinic to do a vitamin D blood test. I like that knowing that she's not even in the country right now, she still takes time to communicate with her patients. I adore this lady. So on Friday DH and I are gonna pop into the lab for a blood test. Needles and blood. Fun stuff!

A couple of days ago I received an e-mail from a stranger telling me that she read my blog and that our TTC journey are almost the same. But when she told me about her TTC journey, there was nothing similar about them at all. Sure I failed my two IVFs but this girl lost her baby at 21 weeks. My goodness. My heart broke reading about it and I could feel my eyes welling with tears. She was telling me how strong I am going through this long and uncertain journey. But seriously, my strength is nothing compared to hers. Sometimes I forget that in my heartbreak, that there are people who's had it worse than me. I wish you well for your third IVF my new friend. You know who you are.

I wrote a couple of times about how important my BBC friends are to me in this journey. Like any other support groups, the TTC community is awesome. I know how hard it is to talk about your TTC journey with close friends and even families. Heck, I only tell my friends and family of this third IVF on a need to know basis only. Sometimes you can't get the support you need from friends and families. Sometimes it's easier to talk strangers. They give you a different perspective and keep things in check for you, which is what I like. How I stayed strong after my two failed IVFs was largely because of my BBC friends and I'm forever grateful to them.

So for those who are in this journey, I encourage you to find a group or community that you are comfortable with and hop on board. You'll be pleasantly surprised. Or if you are not comfortable with that, I'll be happy to talk to you (if you need someone to talk to). To be honest, I'm a bit dismayed that where I live, infertility is not advocated enough, unlike in the US. It's a shame really, because infertility is a medical disease and people need to be more aware and talk about it. So, if you need someone to talk to, just e-mail me ok? You are not alone.

Have a good week everyone!

11 comments:

  1. All the best for your 3rd IVF dear,keep positive,me too on going for third FET cycle in December.baby dust! :-)

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    1. Thanks Nuriz! And good luck to you too!

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  2. Awwww u mentioned me! It's so heartwarming to be mentioned in your blog. Anyhow, we shared the same journey but maybe a different roller coaster. Stay strong & dont give up. U take care!


    Hi Kak Nuriz, i did e-mailed you too. Was quite emotional last week so i tried finding someone to gain strength & courage. Good luck to u too. :) InsyaAllah dipermudahkan kita semua. Aminnnn....

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    1. You take care too. And have a really good rest. Go embabies!!

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    2. Haha yeahhh go embabies go!! You can do it!! :D

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  3. betul tu aiza, it is important to have strong support system around us...TTC friends has helped me a lot especially in surviving my failed cycle.

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    1. yup betul. Probably because they're in the same boat as we are so the empathy is there :)

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  4. "Sometimes you can't get the support you need from friends and families. Sometimes it's easier to talk strangers."

    So true! We're not telling our families on this 2nd IVF. Just the two of us, and strangers that loved like families..

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    1. Sad but true. It's not that we want to shut them out, but we just need a different unbiased perspective. Good luck on your 2nd IVF!

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  5. Hugs and always cheering you on my sweet friend!! Princess

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    1. Awwwww thanks my gorgeous Princess xoxo

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