Friday, August 8, 2014

Understand Before you Speak

So something annoyed me today and I can't get it out if my head. I was scrolling my Fakebook (silly me) and a friend reposted someone's advice about not to keep asking a couple when they are going to have children. Well that is all fine and dandy but what annoyed me is that she commented on the advice. And this is what she said:

"I'm aware of this. But sometimes it's the reason you gave at the beginning of your marriage that people keep asking. Like nak enjoy dulu lah, not planning one yet lah. If everyone could give an honest answer there will be less people asking kot?"

So bloody what? Just because you gave those reasons, people have the right to butt in and ask things which are none of their business in the first place? And yes, I commented as much on her post. And may I just add that this girl is now pregnant with baby #2 so what the bloody hell does she know about being childless? I swear to God sometimes people say things or comment on things that they have absolutely no clue about. My advice is keep your trap shut.  

I found this on Fakebook yesterday. 

Basically what it says is that only God knows what He has planned for us. We don't know the trials that people who are unmarried or childless go through so stop judging the unmarried or the childless couple. I think the advice is so spot on. 

So guys, think before you speak. You may hurt people's feelings, although it may be unintentional.

Saturday, August 2, 2014

Happy Eid!

Hello my chickadees. How's everyone's Eid so far? And to those who don't celebrate, how are you? Good I hope. I'm enjoying Eid but I have to admit, the excitement kinda wanes a bit the older I get. When I was a kid, Eid was all about getting those green Raya packets. Now it's about keeping my faith in check, performing my ibadah and spending time with my loved ones. This year I got to make lemang at DH's kampung. I've done this a couple of times already and Baba is already pestering me about making lemang in Kajang next year LOL. We spent four days in Kuala Pilah before going back to Kajang to spend second day of Eid with my family. And since little sister is back, it made celebrating Eid a lot more fun. We even lit up an 8 ft Chinese firecrackers at the playground in front of my parents' house LOL! Other than that there's not much to talk about Eid.

Aside from Eid, I feel like I must also address the killings in Gaza and the war between Hamas and Israel. This is because I keep thinking about my BBC friends and I don't want them to think that I'm being disrespectful to their religion or country or anything like that. I hope I'm not. My anger is directed at the government, not the people, and of course at Israel. I have been quite active posting about it on my Facebook and I have stayed away from posting and including religious sentimens in my posts.  For me, the killings in Gaza has nothing to do about religion and has everything to do with humanity. I've read books about the genocide of the Jews by Hitler and I think what Hitler did was beyond reprehensible. Again, because it's put it simply, murder. It's the act of taking away someone's life. How can you stand by and watch thousands of innocent civilians, most if them children and babies, being killed on daily basis and not say anything about it? 

So I'm hope I'm not stepping on anyone's toes on this. If I am please let me know. 

Other than that, it's the weekend! Get out. Have fun outside. It's such a lovely day to be out (though it's a bit hot here LOL). I'm heading out to dinner with the family in a bit. Hopefully you guys are having a grand time with your families and friends too. Take care my chickadees!