Monday, January 16, 2012

Male vs Female. And Other Unimportant Stuff

So there was a debate going on on my twitter timeline last Friday on whether a male obgyn is better than a female one. It all started when a news came out in the papers that a male obgyn was brought to court for molesting his pregnant patient. A friend twot (yup that's an actual past tense of tweet people) that she would never go to a male obgyn because of this and that we're not living in a darurah (emergency) state so why should we go to a male obgyn? This sparked some tension among my friends whom I know to have male obgyn/fertility specialists. Heck my fertility specialist is also a male and I love him! He was always there when I needed him.

I don't think my friend meant any harm when she started the whole thing off. But for us infertiles, I can see how it made my other friend upset. People who do not have to go through the whole TTC journey are not like us. They don't get us. They have a choice. We don't. At least not in my country. There are only a handful of female fertility specialists and a lot more males. I have had experience going to female doctors for my pap spears and I just plain hate female doctors. They're rough and you leave the clinic with your vajayjay sore. And I never want to go through that again. Nope. No way. Na-ah.

I guess whether you get a good obgyn/fertility specialist or not, it all comes down to luck. That idiot doctor in the news happens to be one in a million. For me, just because of that one bad apple, you can't generalize and say that all male doctors are perverts.

Ok, enough about my twitter drama. Today was a bad day. It started off okay until I went to a meeting and saw that the lady who organized the meeting is pregnant. She's about 4 months pregnant I think and seeing her belly was painful for me. It took me great effort to remain calm and be all smiley when inside I was weeping. As soon as the meeting was over I ran to the bathroom and cried. It's been 2 months since I lost my little peanut and it still hurts. When does it end? Will it ever end? If anyone can give me an answer to this, that would be awesome. Sigh...

Anyway, has anybody read "A Game of Thrones" by George R. R. Martin? OMG it's awesome. I've never seen the series on HBO but the book is so captivating. I couldn't stop reading it. I'm halfway through and I already have an itch to get the second book "A Clash of Kings." It's that good. I also have an itch to hide in the toilet with my book right now. If you need a book recommendation, here's one for you. Go get "A Game of Thrones" now!

Much love


  1. So sorry about your experience at the meeting. I know how difficult that must have been. {{HUGS}} I think it always stays with you, but each day gets better. Hang in there.

  2. Thanks Mel. I do hope it gets better. I wouldn't want to go off crying everytime I go for meetings LOL.