Friday, August 8, 2014

Understand Before you Speak

So something annoyed me today and I can't get it out if my head. I was scrolling my Fakebook (silly me) and a friend reposted someone's advice about not to keep asking a couple when they are going to have children. Well that is all fine and dandy but what annoyed me is that she commented on the advice. And this is what she said:

"I'm aware of this. But sometimes it's the reason you gave at the beginning of your marriage that people keep asking. Like nak enjoy dulu lah, not planning one yet lah. If everyone could give an honest answer there will be less people asking kot?"

So bloody what? Just because you gave those reasons, people have the right to butt in and ask things which are none of their business in the first place? And yes, I commented as much on her post. And may I just add that this girl is now pregnant with baby #2 so what the bloody hell does she know about being childless? I swear to God sometimes people say things or comment on things that they have absolutely no clue about. My advice is keep your trap shut.  

I found this on Fakebook yesterday. 

Basically what it says is that only God knows what He has planned for us. We don't know the trials that people who are unmarried or childless go through so stop judging the unmarried or the childless couple. I think the advice is so spot on. 

So guys, think before you speak. You may hurt people's feelings, although it may be unintentional.


  1. OMG!!!! Why la some people so ignorant! Tak kena kat dia, boleh la kata macam2 kan... perhaps she could happen to her son/daughter/sisters etc... Nauzubillah... pls la be more sensitive to pulak yg emo baca komen dia tu...huhuhuhu

    1. Entah lah ST. Tu la bila you say things without thinking. My friend reminded me sometimes orang lupa anak tu pun ujian Allah. Masing2 ada ujian sendiri kan? By the way, Selamat Hari Raya! :)

  2. Hurm...butthurt jugak bila baca komen kawan awak tu...
    Macam Yani kena dulu masa beraya di rumah sedara belah suami tahun kedua kawin...dia tanya perlahan-lahan.."Merancang ke?"

    My face was like "OMG......aku yg badan gemuk macam ni ada gaya nak merancang2 ke? Lagi nak anak cepat ade ler!" Tapi cakap dalam hati jer la...hanya mampu sengih dan kata "Takde la, x merancang pun"...tahu la dia tu setiap tahun beranak pinak je kejenyer....

    Tak berada dalam situasi TTC tak bermakna boleh kondem golongan TTC sesuka hati ye?